"For better or worse" was never supposed to mean putting up with being treated badly for the rest of your life. If you're truly unhappy in your marriage, divorce has probably crossed your mind more than once in the past few months. Are you looking to make a decision as to whether or not it's time to file for divorce or continue trying to make it work? Here, you'll find a little information that can help you make this difficult decision.
How long have you been unhappy?
If you haven't been happy with your marriage for months, or even years, you know something has to change. If things aren't showing any sign of improving by now, chances are they won't—unless you do something.
Do you know what's making you unhappy?
Give it some thought. Do you know what's making you unhappy in your marriage? Sit down with a pen and paper and write down the things that are making you as miserable as you think you are. Once you have everything written down, you'll be able to see if you're being a bit too inflexible or petty.
Sometimes, this list can be rather eye-opening. It gives you a chance to see exactly what it is that you've had swirling through your mind all of this time. You might learn that it's not your marriage that needs to change, but your mindset, or how you cope with certain situations.
Have you tried counseling?
In some states, the courts will require you to attend some sort of couple's counseling before the divorce will be finalized, so before you go and file, think about taking part in counseling. Many marriages have been saved due to the conversations that were had with a neutral third party sitting in for the conversation. It could be that you and your spouse just need some help with communication.
Have you talked with a divorce attorney?
If you haven't talked with a divorce attorney, you should, so you can learn more about how things could turn out. Gather up some basic information like financials and so forth, and schedule a consultation. You could learn that things might actually get worse for you and your spouse if you go through with a divorce.
Take time to think carefully about your next step—it will have a significant impact on the rest of your life and the life of your spouse.